I’M LATE, AS USUAL. It’s only a three-minute drive to the parking lot where I meet Reed Hastings to carpool to work, but when your son throws up on you at breakfast, and you can’t find your keys, and it’s raining, and you realize at the last minute that you don’t have enough gas in your car to get you over the Santa Cruz Mountains into Sunnyvale—good luck with making a 7:00 a.m. meet-up time.

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Reed runs a company called Pure Atria that makes software development tools—and that recently acquired a startup I helped found, Integrity QA. After Reed bought our company, he kept me on as his VP of corporate marketing. We take turns driving.

We usually get to the office on time, but the way we get there changes, depending on who’s driving. When it’s Reed’s turn, we leave on time, in an immaculate Toyota Avalon. We drive the speed limit. Sometimes there’s a driver, a kid from Stanford who has been instructed to navigate the twisting, mountainous turns of Highway 17 with care and precision. “Drive like there’s a full cup of coffee on the dashboard,” I’ve heard Reed tell him. And the poor kid does.

Me? I drive a beat-up Volvo with two car seats in the back. A kind description of my driving would be impatient. But maybe aggressive is more accurate. I take turns fast. And when I get excited about something, I go even faster.

On this day, it’s my turn to drive. As I pull into the parking lot, Reed’s already waiting, huddled beneath an umbrella, leaning on his car. He looks annoyed.

“You’re late,” he says, shaking off his umbrella as he slips into my car, picking a crumpled Diet Coke can and two packages of diapers off the front seat and tossing them into the back. “Traffic’s going to be terrible with all the rain.”

It is. There’s a wreck at Laurel Curve, a stalled semi at the Summit. And then the usual Silicon Valley traffic, coders and executives in long lines on the highway, like ants returning to an anthill.

“Okay,” I say. “But I’ve got a new one. Customized baseball bats. Totally personalized and unique. Users fill out their information online, then we use a computer-controlled milling machine to craft a bat to their exact specs: length, handle thickness, size of the barrel. All one-of-a-kind. Or not. If you want an exact re-creation of Hank Aaron’s bat, we could do that, too.”

Reed’s face goes blank. It’s an expression I know well. To an outside observer, it would look like he’s just staring out the dirty windshield at the redwoods whizzing by, or the Subaru going a little too slowly in front of us. But I know what’s behind that look: a rapid-fire evaluation of pros and cons, a high-speed cost-benefit analysis, a near-instantaneous predictive model about possible risks and scalability.

Five seconds go by, then ten, then fifteen. After about thirty seconds he turns to me and says, “That will never work.”

We’ve been doing this for a few weeks. Reed has been working overtime finalizing a huge merger that will put us both out of a job, and once the dust settles from that, I’m planning to start my own company. Every day in the car, I pitch ideas to Reed. I’m trying to convince him to come on board as an advisor or investor, and I can tell he’s intrigued. He’s not shy about giving me feedback. He knows a good thing when he sees it. He also knows a bad thing when he hears it.

And my morning-drive ideas? They’re mostly bad ideas.

Reed swats this one away just like he did the others. It’s impractical. It’s unoriginal. It will never work.

“Also, baseball’s popularity is waning with younger people,” he says, as we roll to a stop behind a sand truck. The sand is on its way to San Jose, where it will eventually be turned into concrete for roads and buildings in booming Silicon Valley. “Don’t want to be tied to a declining user base from the start.”

“You’re wrong,” I say, and I tell him why. I’ve done my research, too. I know the numbers for sporting goods sales. I’ve looked into baseball bat production—how much the raw materials cost, how expensive it is to buy and operate the milling machine. And, okay, I might have a personal connection to this idea: my oldest son just finished his rookie Little League season.

For every one of my points, Reed has an answer. He’s analytical, rational, and doesn’t waste time with niceties. I don’t, either. Our voices are raised, but we’re not angry. It’s an argument, but it’s a productive one. Each of us understands the other. Each of us knows that the other is going to offer stiff, uncompromising resistance.

“Your attachment to this idea isn’t strictly rational,” he says, and I almost laugh. Behind his back, I’ve heard people compare Reed to Spock. I don’t think they mean it as a compliment, but they should. In Star Trek, Spock is almost always right. And Reed is, too. If he thinks something won’t work, it probably won’t.

The first time I met Reed, we were taking a cross-country plane trip from San Francisco to Boston. Reed had just acquired my company, but we’d never spent any meaningful time alone together. I’d been sitting at the gate, waiting to board, reading through a binder of materials on memory leak detectors and software version management, when someone tapped my shoulder. It was Reed. “Where are you sitting?” he’d asked, frowning at my paper ticket.

When I told him, he took my ticket, marched to the counter, and upgraded me to first class.

That was nice, I thought. I’ll get a chance to read, relax a little, maybe even get a little sleep.

But that was my first lesson about Reed. When the flight attendant came, he’d waved away the free mimosas, turned his body ninety degrees, and locked eyes with me. Then, for the next five and a half hours, he’d given an exhaustive overview of the state of our business, barely pausing to take a sip of sparkling water. I’d hardly gotten a word in edgewise, but I didn’t care. It was one of the most brilliant business analyses I’d ever heard—like being hooked up to a supercomputer.

We’re not in first class anymore. We’re in a Volvo that could use a wash. But I still find Reed’s mind fascinating and his demeanor refreshing. I’m grateful for his advice, for the consulting I’m getting for free on these rides “over the hill” into Silicon Valley and back. By total luck, I’ve ended up in the same company—and the same town—with someone who understands my vision and can provide invaluable help, not to mention savings on gas. But it’s still frustrating to hear that an idea I’ve spent a week researching is totally unfeasible. A part of me is starting to wonder if all of my business ideas are built on a foundation as unsteady and shifty as the sand loaded into the truck ahead of us.

That truck, by the way, is still in the left lane, moving slowly, holding everybody up. I’m frustrated. I flash my lights. The truck driver looks at me in the rearview mirror, doesn’t even react. I mutter a few irrational obscenities.

“You need to relax,” Reed says, gesturing to the traffic ahead of us. He’s already told me—twice—that my habit of constantly changing lanes is, in the end, counterproductive and inefficient. My driving makes him insane—and a little carsick. “We’ll get there when we get there.”

“I’m gonna pull my hair out,” I say, “and I don’t have much left.” I run my hand through the remnants of my curls, and then it happens: I have one of those all-too-rare epiphany moments. It seems like everything happens at once: The sun comes out of the clouds, and it stops drizzling. The sand truck wheezes to life and merges into the proper lane, and traffic starts to move. It feels like I can see for miles, down into the clogged heart of San Jose: houses, office buildings, treetops waving in the breeze. We pick up speed, and the redwoods fall away behind us, and in the distance I see Mount Hamilton, its crest sparkling with fresh snow. And then it comes to me. The idea that will finally work.

“Personalized shampoo by mail,” I say.

Silicon Valley loves a good origin story. The idea that changed everything, the middle-of-the-night lightbulb moment, the what if we could do this differently? conversation.

Origin stories often hinge on epiphanies. The stories told to skeptical investors, wary board members, inquisitive reporters, and—eventually—the public usually highlight a specific moment: the moment it all became clear. Brian Chesky and Joe Gebbia can’t afford their San Francisco rent, then realize that they can blow up an air mattress and charge people to sleep on it—that’s Airbnb. Travis Kalanick spends $800 on a private driver on New Year’s Eve and thinks there has to be a cheaper way—that’s Uber.

There’s a popular story about Netflix that says the idea came to Reed after he’d rung up a $40 late fee on Apollo 13 at Blockbuster. He thought, What if there were no late fees? And BOOM! The idea for Netflix was born.

That story is beautiful. It’s useful. It is, as we say in marketing, emotionally true.

But as you’ll see in this book, it’s not the whole story. Yes, there was an overdue copy of Apollo 13 involved, but the idea for Netflix had nothing to do with late fees—in fact, at the beginning, we even charged them. More importantly, the idea for Netflix didn’t appear in a moment of divine inspiration—it didn’t come to us in a flash, perfect and useful and obviously right.

Epiphanies are rare. And when they appear in origin stories, they’re often oversimplified or just plain false. We like these tales because they align with a romantic idea about inspiration and genius. We want our Isaac Newtons to be sitting under the apple tree when the apple falls. We want Archimedes in his bathtub.

But the truth is usually more complicated than that.

The truth is that for every good idea, there are a thousand bad ones. And sometimes it can be hard to tell the difference.

Customized sporting goods. Personalized surfboards. Dog food individually formulated for your dog. These were all ideas I pitched to Reed. Ideas I spent hours working on. Ideas I thought were better than the idea that eventually—after months of research, hundreds of hours of discussion, and marathon meetings in a family restaurant—became Netflix.

I had no idea what would work and what wouldn’t. In 1997, all I knew was that I wanted to start my own company, and that I wanted it to involve selling things on the internet. That was it.

It seems absurd that one of the largest media companies in the world could come from those two desires. But it did.

This is a story about how we went from personalized shampoo to Netflix. But it’s also a story about the amazing life of an idea: from dream to concept to shared reality. And about how the things we learned on that journey—which took us from two guys throwing ideas around in a car, to a dozen people at computers in a former bank, to hundreds of employees watching our company’s letters scroll across a stock ticker—changed our lives.

One of my goals in telling this story is to puncture some of the myths that attach themselves to narratives like ours. But it’s equally important to me to show how and why some of the things we did at the beginning—often unwittingly—worked. It’s been over twenty years since those first car rides with Reed, and in that time, I’ve come to realize that there are things we discovered that, applied broadly, can influence a project’s success. Not exactly laws, not even principles, but hard-won truths.

Truths like: Distrust epiphanies.

The best ideas rarely come on a mountaintop in a flash of lightning. They don’t even come to you on the side of a mountain, when you’re stuck in traffic behind a sand truck. They make themselves apparent more slowly, gradually, over weeks and months. And in fact, when you finally have one, you might not realize it for a long time.